After a long exhausting journey I reached the crossroads
as tired as I was, this didn’t bring me any joy.
There was a milestone, half white and washed
and no other sign boards that I can see of.
I buried my face in my hands but I couldn’t close my eyes
For it wasn’t yet time to call it a night.
The journey, I thought would soon end
have only just begun.
I don’t know how far or for how many nights
I don’t know how long this journey would take
I talk not as if I have a choice
I got to bear it all.
Dedicated to my son who turns 2 this 2nd of Dec (Insha Allah/God willing)
Round and round in circles I run
Singing this song and having some fun
I giggle, I jump and I wave my hands
at Pappa and Momma ‘coz they’re my friends!
One evening while I was sitting in this park listening to some music I saw a good looking middle aged women walk past by me hurriedly.
“Hmm…nice fragrance!” I said to myself. “She is probably here looking for her kids to take them to a family gathering”. I could judge that by her outfit and that lovely brown purse hanging low over her shoulder.
Anyway, I was enjoying the cool breeze with some beautiful slow beet music. Three minutes later I see her walking hastily towards the basketball court. “You are too young to have one of them as your kid!” I told myself
I sighed and continued with my music. Two minutes gone and she passed me again swiftly. “Is there a problem? Should I offer to help?” I questioned myself. This time around I let my eyes follow her. She walked non-stop, zig-zag all around the park.
Before I could ask myself “Is that her evening-walk?!” Myself yelled back at me “Just shut up and enjoy your music!”
I heard them say they were helpless
they looked at the sky, their throats were dry,
in a deep dying voice they asked “Why”?
They got no answer but days rolled by…
Miracle didn’t happen; they were left to die
so is the story of some men who couldn’t cry.
Today I am helpless; I am staring at the sky!
Little by little a city is destroyed
And a stream of blood started to flow
Little by little a country is destroyed
And an ocean of blood started to show.
I am being followed and I am being watched
By a nicest person in the ugliest crowd
I feel so nice and I am so touched
I feel like screaming out loud!
Depression is such a bad thing;
I saw him stoop, tired and depressed.
It was on a darkest night and the owl did sing
And I saw his soul barely dressed.
When thorns are laid on trails I take
When my heart is numb and mind is dead
I trust in Allah a decision to make
And show me a way ahead…
In a husband and wife relationship the key to success is the bond between two souls. It is important to understand each other, know each other’s feelings and be there for them. No matter how far you are from one other it is essential to ‘show’ that you are right beside your loved one all the time. Never play with anybodies feelings. It hurts very badly.
Technology has helped us a lot. The world is much smaller now. So then, how about a phone call? or an sms? Easy, isn’t it? A quick phone call helps cut distance barrier. But remember to be genuine while you call or never call at all. You don’t need to chose words or be careful rather be as carefree as you can. Find time to talk and talk wholeheartedly. Put all your feelings into it. Ask each other’s how-abouts while being a good listener. Make them feel that you are sitting right next to him/her. Depending on how deep is your love call them as frequent as you can. (But don’t be irritatingly nice!!) This helps build a bond and shows how much you care.
Many of us might not be an extrovert in showing our feelings. It is for our spouse to gauge our emotions. Say, the husband is out on a business trip and the wife is taking care of the kids back home. It is quite evident that the husband is more likely to miss his family more. If he is an extrovert he will call more often and if he is an introvert he will sit by the phone and wait for his wife call him. Either way, he loves his wife. The wife knows her husband better and vice versa.
So, what is holding you? Firstly understand each other better. Second, love and care for each other without expecting anything in return. Third, be nice and give each other some space if that is what is required for the moment. Fourth, do not argue rather bite your teeth while being a good listener. Fifth, if you are wrong accept it. To err is human. Sixth, let bygones be bygones, do not nag about it. Move on with your life. You cannot rewind and rectify all your wrongs. Eighth, do not accuse each other without proper evidence. Ninth, discuss, communicate with each other regularly on your day to day activities. Little things for you might not be so little for your spouse. Tenth, don’t be so serious! If you haven’t noticed, I have skipped “seventh” point! 😉 Lastly, be that happy couple that all your neighbors envy! God bless you!