Possessiveness in a relationship

When we talk about relationships the word possessiveness often brings a chill down our spinal cord. It’s not a nice word to use especially when it comes to a turbulent relationship. It says a lot.

But, is getting possessive a recipe for disaster?

I don’t know about the experts but I would say getting possessive to a certain degree is indispensable. It is an indication of much you care for each other. It shows your spouse that there’s someone they could to count on, someone that’s there for them, someone that cares for them. It’s a factor that makes the bond stronger.

You can’t take a happy-go-lucky approach in a long term relationship. If you love freedom then you better be alone. Relationship is for serious people.

Let’s say, in a metre of 100 I would go for 40. Remaining 60 is for ‘trust’. What’s your take on this? Do let me know.

That said, it is equally important to provide for a breathing space to your partner. Try to read your partner’s body language to avoid petty arguments.

Sticking on to my metre, if you go beyond 40 you might feel the boat shaky. It gets much worse afterwards as your possessive nature turns into you being suspicious of every little thing you see or hear. Connecting dots of your choice wouldn’t be much of a trouble. When that happens then you must understand that you have reached a point of no return.

Over Possessiveness leads to suspicion coupled with jealousy and that leads to crime.

11 thoughts on “Possessiveness in a relationship

    • Trust alone doesn’t long last if not glued with a little bit of possessiveness. Blind trust will often be misused. That’s when extra marital affairs start to blossom. That’s why citizens enjoy freedom and there’s also a LAW in place to limit the freedom you enjoy. Who would stick to a job if there is no job security? …and that job security is what is holding your trust in a company to perform better.

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      • The older you get the less possessive your nature becomes. In love and life I just appreciate more where I stand now and how I got here.. Yes, I could lose my job or my husband but worrying about something that may not happen is waste of time and life is too precious to waste. If it happens it happens. People come and go in your life, enjoy the moments you have.

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